It’s Your Movie…Rewrite the Script
By Eva Starr………
Snakes do it, hermit crabs do it, even chickens do it, molting that is. Snakes will rub against rough surfaces to shed their skins because they outgrow their old ones. Hermit crabs burying themselves in the sand while they molt and leave their old homes (shells) for a new one. I have two Hermit crabs Jack and Joy, and I leave empty shells in their tank so when it’s time for them to leave their old homes, they have new ones to choose from. Chickens stop laying eggs before their molting begins until their new set of feathers has grown back. Everything in nature sheds its skin, fur, feathers even grasshoppers; it’s part of the natural process of life. Just look at the four seasons; birth, blossoming, harvesting, and death, it’s like the circle that has no end, it continues forevermore.
Where do we fit into the cycle of rebirth? Christians are saved and born again, Buddhists accept doctrines of reincarnation and karma, Judaism believes that death is not the end all, and Spiritualists say that when crossing over we go to a realm of consciousness that reflects accumulation of all our thoughts and actions of our lifetime. I am not an expert on any of the aforementioned religions but I do believe that we must reinvent ourselves as we journey through life as we know it individual to self.
I just got back from two trips in the last month, one Cleveland, and the other Ft. Myers, Florida. I currently live in North San Diego County, California. As I returned home and reflected on the two trips, I came to a realization that my life and my connections to the people in them have gone through a metamorphosis.
The trip to Cleveland was for my oldest daughter’s wedding, which after going through a period of heroin addiction she is now coming up to her three-year anniversary of sobriety from drugs and alcohol. We were estranged for several on and off years until I helped her through her period of rehab and coming to the place she is now. As a mother, I must release and let go of that time for she is on a new path in which the chess pieces have changed.
The second trip was to visit my father in Ft. Myers, who is now 80. Since moving to California, I have not made the trip to Florida as I so often did when living in Cleveland. My dad’s views on life and my place in it have also changed. I thought we would just sit on the dock, fishing, talking fishing stuff like we had done in days gone past but that’s what I get for thinking.
I’ve come to the harsh awakening that my connections to the people I love most have shifted and I was the last to know. So what do I do? I do like most of us; I reinvent myself, my life, and my place in it.
I remember a few years back going to a Divine Science of Mind service in Terrasanta, California where Reverend Patti handed everyone in the service a different colored piece of paper with writing on it. She told us not to look at it until she gave us instructions. Later on in the service, she asked us to take the paper, read it, and make that our new story. I was blown away to discover my piece of paper, (lime green, which I still have) the words very similar to how I used to think and live my life but somehow I drifted away. It simply said in a nutshell “I always find treasures at garage sales that are worth something, and I am always the lucky one, seemingly in the right place at the right time…” and the story goes on.
Reverend Patti’s point was, whatever horrid childhood, or adulthood we had, we didn’t have to accept that as our truth, we could become reborn and reinvent our story to fit who we want to be. As I perform my full moon monthly releasing rituals I always use the words “I am releasing what no longer serves who I am and who I am becoming.”
I feel that it is essential in our daily lives to become reborn, to reinvent ourselves to fit our ever-changing patterns of growth and beliefs. If you’re pushing 60 like me, then it’s time to think about where do you want to be, what do you want to do, what excites you? You don’t have to uproot everything and move to California, like I did, you can simply try a few of these simple steps.
Begin by looking within and reflecting on what is working in your life, and what is dead and needs to be thrown out with yesterday’s trash. Get yourself a possibilities journal and begin free writing by jotting down everything that comes to mind that you’d like to do. There’s no judgment here, just let your pen and imagination flow. Then take small steps by shaking things up a bit, like taking a new route to work. Join a Meet-Up group with interests that fascinate you, stop into a country-bar and learn line dancing for the first time, or pick up a magazine you would never consider reading and just give a shot.
Open yourself to the unknown, come out of your comfort-zone, ask yourself “what’s next?” When you act doors open, follow the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, “Do one thing everyday that scares you.”
It’s time to reinvent you, give yourself another chance to be reborn. After all, it’s your movie; it’s time to rewrite the script.
Eva Starr’s spiritual journey has taken her coast-to-coast studying the various schools of thought. Starr now resides in the San Diego area devouring the alluring buffet of wisdom the West Coast has to offer. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org & visit her new blog starronthefly.evastarr.com and her websites reachforthemoon.net and evastarr.com